"Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life." Proverbs 4:23
Hey Everyone! Yes, this is going to be one of those serious blogs again. But, I am very passionate about this and I am going to rant for a minute about this. The other day I bought a ring a steerling silver ring that says, "Love is Patient, Love is Kind, and Love Endures all things."
At the age of 20, I was dating a man I was with for a year and a half. He and I were very serious with one another. He admitted over and over he could not wait till we were married. We talked about marriage alot. We ended up dating three long years. He is the man I meation, that was also emotionally abusive, which I did not see till my eyes were opened by GOD. We ended up that V-day having sex that one and only time we ever did. It was painful, not just physically but emotionally and spiritually. The main reason I did is his reaction of "If you love me we will". "We are going to be together always Lindsey, why not?" I cried out to GOD and said "GOD, Please forgive me." The man I was with thought I was crazy and insane and never tempted me to have sex with him again much less talk about marriage. So, I knew that I just made the hugest mistake of my life.
I am now 24 years old. I understand fully I can never ever get my virginity back. My first time was also my last and only time. I have made a vow not only with myself but with GOD that I will wait for my husband till the night we are pronounced husband and wife. I can not do this to myself anymore, I am constantly reminded that I will not get it back. But, in my heart I have given my heart so fully and completly to GOD. The ring on my left finger is my ring I bought. I will call this in my life my "promise to myself ring". That everytime I get discouraged of thinking, "When is it my turn?" "Why can't I be like the other girl's and not worry about it?" It reminds me that the man that truely loves me and wants to be with me, will forgive me for the mistake I made and will love me enough to wait with me. Because if he does not choose to do those two things then obviously he must not be worth my time.
Parents, if you are reading I pray that you talk to your kids, boys or girls. Have that Bible time with them, tell them about dating. If they have made to keep a choice, it is so much more than a signing a pecie of paper or getting a ring and putting it on. It is a lifestyle choice. I wish I could take back what I did, but I know that I love myself, GOD, and my future husband enough to wait. Pray for your kids, talk to them, and be open to them about things. Purity is not only from sex, but anything sexual as in "petting". Let your heart be open to everything. Kid's are having sex so much younger and younger these day in age. I already pray for my future kids. It is never too early. I am not even in a relationship, dating or marriage, but I pray for my future spouse and my future babies.
Bible Verses:
The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body...Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said 'the two will become one flesh' ..." [I Corinthians 6:13-16]
"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." [I Corinthians 7:3-5]
GOD bless you all and remember I am always here. I love you and Keep Smiling. Love, Lindsey :)
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October 21, 2009 at 6:34 PM
Very encouraging post! Thanks for sharing! True love waits is something I'm passionate about! It is great to know you pray for your future husband and kids, I do that too! Have you ever wrote to letters to your future husband? I do that sometimes, saving them to give to him when we are married, whoever he is! I may not know, but I know that God knows and that is all that matter!
Thanks again for sharing!
God Bless you Lindsey!
October 21, 2009 at 7:48 PM
Wonderful post, thank you for sharing, I also feel very strong about this as well:)
October 22, 2009 at 8:33 AM
Wonderful post - You have wisdom beyond your years and I know the Lord is using it as a "sign post" to others! Keep on "sharing and declaring" what the Lord has given you! Blessed to have found your site........
Sweet Blessings!
Jackie